Ian Peter willcocks

It was 1986 when I met Ian i was 17 and he was 21. We got engaged within the year and we moved in to our new home. We were very happy and he was my best friend and my soulmate. Then in 2004 our lives changed when he was diagnosed with primary progressive multiple sclerosis, we never let it get us down and carried on with our life the best we could. Then in 2010 after we moved to a ground floor flat he became worse and more disabled leaving him completely bedridden with no movement from his neck down and totally reliable on me by which time I was his full time sole carer. We were still very happy and made the most of it until the worst thing happened in October 2018 when he got pneumonia and from then on got worse and worse. Ian got over this but then got it again at Christmas and then 3 lots of aspiration pneumonia in 2019, it was March when I was taken into a room and told he would not make it and had about 2 months to live. I got a lot of support from my family and I always did everything I could to make his life as comfortable as I could. I took him home to die as I didn’t want him dying in hospital. He was quite poorly when we got home, he had a cough assist machine to help keep his lungs clear and was on permanent oxygen. For a few days he was unconscious and I thought this was it but after a few days he suddenly woke up and asked for a drink, it was then we decided to get married by his bedside so 2 days later on the 3rd of April we were married and it was the happiest day I had had since October when he first got pneumonia. Unfortunately a month later on the 6th may at 10pm he lost his life when he took his last breath with me holding his hand. I’m very said and lonely and waiting for counselling hoping it will help but I had 34 amazing years with an amazing caring loving human being who didn’t deserve this horrible condition. Love you always and miss you every second of every day your loving wife Kerry XXX